Really the only solution is to change from negative strokes to positive strokes but negative strokes always have more potency than positive strokes.
Sociologically this is most unusual. It is a case of people power, winning over money power and political power.
Successful psychotherapy usually involves the individual experiencing what they want (FC) and then devising a successful plan to get that.
I do know people like Bob Goulding always said there needs to be a good deal of laughter in therapy. Maybe he was saying this so as to reduce the gallows transaction effect.
Games allow a person to further their life script. It is the way a person progresses along the path of the life script to its inevitable conclusion.
The redecision work brings a sense of more clarity to the work with a discrete beginning and end and also to the two participants involved here (therapist and client). It allows them to experience a sense of “I” in the therapy.
My personal view is there is a solid argument for the idea that a child cannot suicide. If one uses the term ‘child suicide’ that is quite misleading as the vast majority of people will assume it to have some similarity to the adult suicide which it most definitely has not.
2. Reparenting or relational. Instead of explaining the transactions, the therapist invites the client to express the anger at the therapist directly.
If one can get beyond all the negativity about the Schiffs and begin to use these ideas in working with non psychotics they provide interesting treatment options and approaches.
One explanation for parallel process is empathy gone wrong.
A psychological game is a repetitive, unconscious pattern of self destructive behaviour played out in a relationship.
In my view it is better to view self harm as a fluid, changing form of psychopathology rather than a static one reason form of pathology.
We have all our fancy theories and techniques but for this type of client it’s just that simple. The person feels a connection with the therapist and that is what really counts.
For example the passive aggressive person often has unintegrated anger. They dislike their anger, so they reject it, but it keeps coming back in their communications with others in a passive form.
Or the observer will instinctually fill in the missing parts as we will all naturally complete the gestalt in our own minds and it will be completed in a positive fashion.
Sociologically that is a remarkable achievement. A group with little or no power has forced those with the power to behave a particular way.
This makes it especially difficult for children from wealthy families who can struggle to gain a sense of who they are as the parent(s) ‘shadow’ is so large.
This is not only adding one extra cause of depression to the list but provides a different view of the nature and cause of depression. It represents a different philosophical view of human nature that is based on personal empowerment.
Naming a child after a family member or a famous person can be a particularly hazardous task. If a chid is named after uncle Harry, that is all good and well, except that uncle Harry was a boozer and a womaniser. The child is being given that label to wear for its life time.
The example given implies that when the urge to kill self is experienced as a directive from another then closing the suicide escape hatch is indicated. When the suicidal urge is not experienced as such a directive then closing the escape hatch may be contra indicated.
My experience with those who are close to a suicidal person finds the feeling and thinking responses to be wide and varied. By no means are they all negative as one might logically expect.
As a general rule, In Australia, police do not have the powers to require health professionals to provide them with information about a client.
“When I phone you for an appointment I usually feel quite anxious and despairing. As soon as I have made the appointment it all goes away and I feel fine. Then I think I don’t need to go and see you.”
Movies can be used as a form of fantasy defence. The observer does more than just watch the movie but feels they exist in it.
The best advice for this is simply to be happy and confident in your body. Some men will find it erotic and some men wont no matter what shape or size it happens to be.
This explanation could go some of the way to answering why those who use physical violence in relationships are so hard to engage in treatment programmes. They perceive, feel and experience the use of such violence as a natural, Free Child, ego syntonic thing to do.
However it is not uncommon for people to confuse the two. For instance if a mother see’s her daughter is cutting self it is understandable how she can then conclude that the daughter is suicidal. However this is not accurate.
Halloween make up, like these pictures, allows the teenage girl to release her sublimated urges to self harm, leading to a healthy outcome.
Behind the fun loving rule breakers are a group with quite conventional views who are quite conforming to their peers. More than the average adult.
Interestingly my comments have changed over time. What I was saying in the first ones is different to what I am saying in them now and again I have no idea what that means, or the point of it is, or what the evolution is.