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Transactional analysis

Consent and power in relationships.

August 1, 2021 //  by Tony White

In most relationships there is an asymmetry of power. Both parties do not perceive each other to be of equal power. This asymmetry is constantly changing. Some times there is just a little power difference and sometimes there is a big power difference. Some times the power difference can completely change direction. A man and …

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Category: Marriage, Relationship, teenagerTag: consent, relationships, Transactional analysis

Silence in psychotherapy

July 24, 2021 //  by Tony White

Over the years there has been much written about silence in psychotherapy and most of the time in these articles and books silence means the absence of speech (Ehrenhaus 1988). A time when the client and therapist are not speaking to each other is defined as silence in psychotherapy. However to me this is not …

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Category: communication, PsychotherapyTag: psychotherapy, silence in therapy, Transactional analysis

Permission and redecision

February 12, 2021 //  by Tony White

These are two different ways of achieving the same thing Permission is from the classical school Redecision is from the redecision school Both of them are designed to alter the injunctions in the life script. To change the injunctions Eric Berne proposed the permission transaction as shown below If the client accepts the permission then …

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Category: child developmentTag: injunctions, permissions, Transactional analysis

Mature love, immature love and the teenager

October 25, 2020 //  by Tony White

Research into adolescent development has described the process that the young teenager uses to develop a mature sense of love. When the teenager enters into early adolescence they begin to have romantic and love feelings for another person for the first time in their life. This has been described as learning how to develop a …

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Category: teenager, TheoryTag: Ego states, immature love, love, Transactional analysis

Psychic organs to ego states

May 31, 2020 //  by Tony White

Eric Berne transitioned from psychoanalysis to transactional analysis in his theory of ego states. As Raymond Hostie tells us he began that journey in 1956. There are three psychic organs The Exteropsyche The Neopsyche The Archeopsyche One sees diagrams like this Psychic organs are all connected up with psychoanalysis and it is how Eric Berne …

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Category: All Blog PostsTag: Ego state, psychic organ, psychoanalysis, Transactional analysis

Schizoid personality type

July 8, 2019 //  by Tony White

I would suggest there are two discrete sub groups in this personality type

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Category: PersonalityTag: life position, personality type, schizoid, Transactional analysis

The bully victim dynamic

January 18, 2019 //  by Tony White

As any child therapist knows the ‘client’ is the child and the parent child relationship. They are a package deal.

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Category: bully, child developmentTag: bully, Transactional analysis

Belief and thinking

September 3, 2018 //  by Tony White

Of course it works the other way as well. “Good” belief systems are also resilient and resistant to change.

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Category: child developmentTag: belief system, Ego states, thinking errors, Transactional analysis

Introjection in psychotherapy

August 17, 2018 //  by Tony White

This provides an interesting insight into introjection in this instance. She hasn’t introjected what I have said but instead introjected my voice sound and quality. Then she has applied that introjected voice to her own words.

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Category: UncategorizedTag: counselling, drugs, Ego states, introjection, Transactional analysis

Introjection and the integrated Adult

June 22, 2018 //  by Tony White

People are adding new introjections to their Parent ego state continuously through out life as part of normal psychological functioning.

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Category: child developmentTag: adult ego state, Ego states, introjection, Transactional analysis

Working with the rebellious person

May 8, 2018 //  by Tony White

Listening to a person talk about how they cut self is stress producing for most people including therapists. The therapist needs to be clear they do not fall into subtly pressuring the client into making the contract due to their own anxieties.

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Category: self harm, teenagerTag: rebellious child, self harm, teenager, Transactional analysis

Confronting magical thinking about suicide

April 20, 2018 //  by Tony White

The magical thinking about suicide is that it can result in a relief from one’s pain.

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Category: suicideTag: Ego states, magical thinking, suicide, Transactional analysis

Working through scared feelings.

March 11, 2018 //  by Tony White

I personally disagree with this. In my view humans are naturally communal beings and we need (are dependent) on others at least to some degree.

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Category: UncategorizedTag: Ego states, feelings, scare, shame, Transactional analysis, working through feelings

How many personality types is the right number?

June 23, 2017 //  by Tony White

In reality there are as many personality types as there are people on this planet, over 6 billion.

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Category: Life positionTag: Transactional analysis

Four demons I have known

November 3, 2016 //  by Tony White

Since that time the work on this concept has continued and the demon like qualities that can also be found in the archetype of Lillith, are applicable to more people but in less pure form as described here.

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Category: child developmentTag: demon, Transactional analysis

Games and enactments

October 19, 2016 //  by Tony White

A game can then be viewed as an unsophisticated attempt by the person to repair self by bringing unconscious material to the surface.

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Category: UncategorizedTag: games, Transactional analysis

Stroke intensity and life style

April 8, 2016 //  by Tony White

Really the only solution is to change from negative strokes to positive strokes but negative strokes always have more potency than positive strokes.

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Category: Addiction, drugTag: therapy, Transactional analysis

Reparenting today

February 21, 2016 //  by Tony White

If one can get beyond all the negativity about the Schiffs and begin to use these ideas in working with non psychotics they provide interesting treatment options and approaches.

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Category: parenting, PsychotherapyTag: cathexis, Ego states, Transactional analysis

Aspects of psychological games

January 25, 2016 //  by Tony White

A psychological game is a repetitive, unconscious pattern of self destructive behaviour played out in a relationship.

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Category: Personality, RelationshipTag: psychological games, Transactional analysis

Odd psychotherapy

November 27, 2015 //  by Tony White

“When I phone you for an appointment I usually feel quite anxious and despairing. As soon as I have made the appointment it all goes away and I feel fine. Then I think I don’t need to go and see you.”

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Category: Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: reparenting, Transactional analysis, winnicott

Fantasy stage of child development

September 27, 2015 //  by Tony White

This part of the personality is engaged with things like the Harry Potter stories. It can also be found in Batman with characters like the Penguin and the Joker. They are presented as mischievous, irreverent and yet appealing characters.

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Category: child development, PersonalityTag: child development, Ego states, Transactional analysis

Introjection in therapy

September 4, 2015 //  by Tony White

Introjection involves a person ingesting or taking in the other person’s personality into their Parent ego state such that it becomes part of them.

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Category: Personality, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: introjection, therapy, Transactional analysis

Psychological strokes

October 12, 2014 //  by Tony White

Transactional analysis theory of strokes is central to the basics of the theory

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Category: child development, parenting, PersonalityTag: negative strokes, strokes, Transactional analysis

Drivers & life script

October 4, 2014 //  by Tony White

Characteristics of drivers in the life script

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Category: Personality, TheoryTag: Drivers, life script, Transactional analysis

Testing in relationships

June 9, 2014 //  by Tony White

The same testing behaviour can happen in the therapeutic relationship. Any client is already in a vulnerable and emotionally open position in therapy. Or at least that is what will have to happen soon for the person to benefit from the therapy, or little will be achieved.

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Category: experimentation, intimacy, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: emotional intimacy, psychotherapy, relationships, Transactional analysis

The formation of life positions

May 26, 2014 //  by Tony White

If the child never resolves its state of primary narcissism then it will never adopt one of these five positions and remains as I+U? or I-U?, which is typical of the narcissistic, borderline and some anti social personalities.

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Category: child development, Life positionTag: borderline siblings, narcissism, siblings, Transactional analysis

Driver analysis and the life script

May 18, 2014 //  by Tony White

The final script payoff is of particular note. As people move into their 40s, 50s and 60s the final script payoff becomes much more obvious. We all have a life script and are all heading down that path through life to its inevitable conclusion.

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Category: TheoryTag: driver, life script, personality, rackets, Transactional analysis

Characteristics of experimental drug and alcohol use

May 12, 2014 //  by Tony White

The goal of experimental use is to experiment and find out what this thing called cannabis feels like. Once they have used a few times they have experimented and thus the reason disappears.

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Category: drug, experimentation, marijuanaTag: drug use, experimentation, Transactional analysis

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