In psychotherapy clients can learn to improve their neurosis For Maria To change the life script theme, is what Willem Reich would call character change (see my book titled The Treatment of Character). This is not commonly done in therapy. I would give a rough estimate of 20% of clients or less top this type …
Human identity is a fragile thing. Who am I? is a question we all ask and how we get our answer can depend on a lot of things. Identification is a psychological process that we all engage in, some more than others. Probably all parents identity with their own children to some degree. In their …
I would suggest there are two discrete sub groups in this personality type
I have suggested a different approach to those listed above to dealing with the demon and that is to engage with it in the relational.
Mothers and fathers can generally treat their various children in a similar ways and one could even say equally, but they are not going to feel the same about each of them.
However it also works the other way. If we are in an environment where we have little confrontational input then the Free Child will assume that is going to continue and it will come out more and more so we become hyper sensitised.
Provide lots of positive stokes to the PA and work on how they may filter the strokes.
If this is true, that could explain why psychological games are such an integral part of the human psyche. Why they are so universal in human relationships.
It would seem prudent for any therapist to enquire of the pre-suicide fantasy a person may have to assess the level of magical thinking present.
These people put themselves in a position where it was highly likely they would end up killed either by their own hand or by someone else’s hand.
As a result we can see what was originally a phobia, upon closer examination is not a phobia. It is about what the person feels he can’t control or what he desires in his personality.
It is harder to maintain the split in the personality and the dissociation is treated.
There needs to be a change in the current legislation which allows for a category of suicidal person not to be reported in a mandatory way. If this should happen then this group of every unhappy people who are feeling very alone are not made to feel more alone but the current laws of this country.
The redecision work brings a sense of more clarity to the work with a discrete beginning and end and also to the two participants involved here (therapist and client). It allows them to experience a sense of “I” in the therapy.
A psychological game is a repetitive, unconscious pattern of self destructive behaviour played out in a relationship.
For example the passive aggressive person often has unintegrated anger. They dislike their anger, so they reject it, but it keeps coming back in their communications with others in a passive form.
This is not only adding one extra cause of depression to the list but provides a different view of the nature and cause of depression. It represents a different philosophical view of human nature that is based on personal empowerment.
This explanation could go some of the way to answering why those who use physical violence in relationships are so hard to engage in treatment programmes. They perceive, feel and experience the use of such violence as a natural, Free Child, ego syntonic thing to do.
Interestingly my comments have changed over time. What I was saying in the first ones is different to what I am saying in them now and again I have no idea what that means, or the point of it is, or what the evolution is.
This part of the personality is engaged with things like the Harry Potter stories. It can also be found in Batman with characters like the Penguin and the Joker. They are presented as mischievous, irreverent and yet appealing characters.
Hence leading questions can be used as a type of hypnotic suggestion to assist the client. BUT the therapist has to be sure their interpretation of the client is accurate.
Introjection involves a person ingesting or taking in the other person’s personality into their Parent ego state such that it becomes part of them.
It’s like the two person psychology and the idea of co creation they are based on a philosophy of no individual personal power. One isn’t who they are as an individual, instead one just becomes part of relationship and is powerless to be the core of who they are.
#4 can include ‘death by cop’, some of those on death row, associating with very violent people such as in organised crime, non compliance to medical advice with life threatening conditions, voluntarily entering a war zone.
Sometimes it is the only position left in the family. As a new child enters the family and grows into it he has to find where he fits. The parents have the Parent and Adult ego states covered and a sibling may have the outspoken, demanding position taken so the ‘happy to help’ good child position is the only one left.
Around the age of 4 years children are working out if they perceive self as male or female. This is not related to their sexual anatomy. Instead it is about their psychological perception of self.
The paranoid wont respect the therapist (see them as having a potency) unless they prove themselves to be a good thinker, that can at least match the paranoid in this way.
Eric Berne listed four ways of recognising ego states and as we know a fifth way (contextual diagnosis) has since been added.
Transactional analysis theory of strokes is central to the basics of the theory
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