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Ego states

Mature love, immature love and the teenager

October 25, 2020 //  by Tony White

Research into adolescent development has described the process that the young teenager uses to develop a mature sense of love. When the teenager enters into early adolescence they begin to have romantic and love feelings for another person for the first time in their life. This has been described as learning how to develop a …

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Category: teenager, TheoryTag: Ego states, immature love, love, Transactional analysis

Identification – Post 1

March 29, 2020 //  by Tony White

Human identity is a fragile thing. Who am I? is a question we all ask and how we get our answer can depend on a lot of things.  Identification is a psychological process that we all engage in, some more than others. Probably all parents identity with their own children to some degree. In their …

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Category: PersonalityTag: Ego states, identification

Self control. Therapeutic implications

March 28, 2020 //  by Tony White

This picture shows a common thought which the eating disordered person can have. Self starvation can be about an attempt at self control and of course we also have binge eating which is out of control eating behaviour. As soon as you start to try and control the Child ego state you are eventually going …

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Category: Eating disorder, ego states, emotionsTag: Ego states, obsessive compulsive, panic attack, self control

Adult ego state strengthening – Post 4

March 25, 2020 //  by Tony White

The final part of this composition on strengthening the Adult ego state seeks a different path. The previous three parts are examining behavioural strategies to assist a person to increase their Adult ego state functioning when under stress. This section will look at some of the underlying causes that may lead to poor Adult ego …

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Category: All Blog Posts, child developmentTag: adult ego state, child development, Ego states, Parenting

Therapist self versus the real self

January 28, 2019 //  by Tony White

Also if the therapy and therapist is overly sensitive and gentle then the client will tend to hyper sensitise and become ‘worse’ in that sense

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Category: PsychotherapyTag: Ego states, Free child, resilience

Belief and thinking

September 3, 2018 //  by Tony White

Of course it works the other way as well. “Good” belief systems are also resilient and resistant to change.

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Category: child developmentTag: belief system, Ego states, thinking errors, Transactional analysis

Introjection in psychotherapy

August 17, 2018 //  by Tony White

This provides an interesting insight into introjection in this instance. She hasn’t introjected what I have said but instead introjected my voice sound and quality. Then she has applied that introjected voice to her own words.

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Category: UncategorizedTag: counselling, drugs, Ego states, introjection, Transactional analysis

Introjection and the integrated Adult

June 22, 2018 //  by Tony White

People are adding new introjections to their Parent ego state continuously through out life as part of normal psychological functioning.

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Category: child developmentTag: adult ego state, Ego states, introjection, Transactional analysis

Suicide and family relationships

May 10, 2018 //  by Tony White

If you are working with a suicidal person and their family then you know that at least some members will be supportive of the suicide from their Free Child point of view.

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Category: suicideTag: Ego states, family, Free child, suicide

Confronting magical thinking about suicide

April 20, 2018 //  by Tony White

The magical thinking about suicide is that it can result in a relief from one’s pain.

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Category: suicideTag: Ego states, magical thinking, suicide, Transactional analysis

Working through scared feelings.

March 11, 2018 //  by Tony White

I personally disagree with this. In my view humans are naturally communal beings and we need (are dependent) on others at least to some degree.

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Category: UncategorizedTag: Ego states, feelings, scare, shame, Transactional analysis, working through feelings

The universality of games

October 9, 2016 //  by Tony White

If this is true, that could explain why psychological games are such an integral part of the human psyche. Why they are so universal in human relationships.

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Category: Personality, TheoryTag: Ego states, games

Magical thinking about death

August 7, 2016 //  by Tony White

It would seem prudent for any therapist to enquire of the pre-suicide fantasy a person may have to assess the level of magical thinking present.

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Category: Personality, suicideTag: Ego states, magical thinking

The psychodynamics of phobias

June 28, 2016 //  by Tony White

As a result we can see what was originally a phobia, upon closer examination is not a phobia. It is about what the person feels he can’t control or what he desires in his personality.

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Category: Personality, suicideTag: Ego states, fear of falling

Three alternate responses to transference

February 27, 2016 //  by Tony White

2. Reparenting or relational. Instead of explaining the transactions, the therapist invites the client to express the anger at the therapist directly.

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Category: Marriage, PsychotherapyTag: Ego states, therapy, transference

Reparenting today

February 21, 2016 //  by Tony White

If one can get beyond all the negativity about the Schiffs and begin to use these ideas in working with non psychotics they provide interesting treatment options and approaches.

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Category: parenting, PsychotherapyTag: cathexis, Ego states, Transactional analysis

Violence and personality

November 5, 2015 //  by Tony White

This explanation could go some of the way to answering why those who use physical violence in relationships are so hard to engage in treatment programmes. They perceive, feel and experience the use of such violence as a natural, Free Child, ego syntonic thing to do.

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Category: child development, PersonalityTag: child development, Ego states, violence

Halloween and violent fantasy

October 31, 2015 //  by Tony White

Halloween make up, like these pictures, allows the teenage girl to release her sublimated urges to self harm, leading to a healthy outcome.

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Category: child development, self harm, teenagerTag: Ego states, self harm, violent

Fotographia

October 10, 2015 //  by Tony White

Interestingly my comments have changed over time. What I was saying in the first ones is different to what I am saying in them now and again I have no idea what that means, or the point of it is, or what the evolution is.

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Category: ego states, PersonalityTag: Ego states, fotographia

Fantasy stage of child development

September 27, 2015 //  by Tony White

This part of the personality is engaged with things like the Harry Potter stories. It can also be found in Batman with characters like the Penguin and the Joker. They are presented as mischievous, irreverent and yet appealing characters.

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Category: child development, PersonalityTag: child development, Ego states, Transactional analysis

Characteristics of transference

March 13, 2015 //  by Tony White

Transference neurosis refers to the situation in psychotherapy where the client will establish the same type and pattern of relationship with the therapist that he had with his original mother and father.

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Category: counselling, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: Ego states, therapy, transference

Further aspects of drug use ambivalence

January 20, 2015 //  by Tony White

However there is quite a sizeable group (most people) who use drugs and alcohol in a non problematic way. They use drugs and alcohol such that their life script is not advanced and their relationships are not damaged in any significant way.

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Category: Dependency, drug, ego statesTag: ambivalence, drug use, Ego states

Working with the Conforming Child, Rebellious Child and Free Child ego states

December 6, 2014 //  by Tony White

In essence you begin to gain a bit of respect. If the Rebellious Child starts to
respect the counsellor as a person, then the individual becomes more receptive to
the therapeutic benefits of the counselling.

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Category: Child ego state, Psychotherapy, teenagerTag: Ego states, rebellion, therapy

The Demon sub personality (Aka Lillith)

September 18, 2014 //  by Tony White

The therapist needs to build a special kind of relational contract with it over a period of time, and regularly maintain that contact in the therapeutic process. One has to go along with its destructiveness at times which can require some very wily and shrewd therapeutic interventions.

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Category: identity, Personality, PsychotherapyTag: counselling, demon, Ego states, life script, psychotherapy

Suicide and the average man

August 17, 2014 //  by Tony White

The Don’t exist injunction is different in that it is a belief a child takes on in childhood. The child basically comes to the conclusion that its own death is a viable solution to a problem.

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Category: parenting, Personality, suicideTag: Ego states, suicide, thanatos

The three ego state integrative model

July 17, 2014 //  by Tony White

In essence the Parent and Child ego states free up the Adult to engage in higher level cognitive functions and relationship skills. Indeed the Adult ego state is dependent on having active Parent and Child ego states influencing it.

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Category: child development, ego statesTag: child development, Ego states, fixation, introjection

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