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Naming a child

December 12, 2015 //  by Tony White

Naming a child after a family member or a famous person can be a particularly hazardous task. If a chid is named after uncle Harry, that is all good and well, except that uncle Harry was a boozer and a womaniser. The child is being given that label to wear for its life time.

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Category: child development, familyTag: adult ego state, life script

Adolescence, anger and what to do – part 2.

September 28, 2015 //  by Tony White

One deals with the anger problem by not talking about it, which may seem a little odd.

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Category: Anorexia, ego states, familyTag: Free child, rebellious child, teenager

Adolescence, anger and what to do

September 26, 2015 //  by Tony White

If this is happening the therapist again must be open to the idea that mother or father secretly delight in the angry self destructive acts of the teenager. This allows the mother or father to avoid the expression of their own self destructiveness.

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Category: child development, ego states, familyTag: anger, parents response, teenager

School refusal or school phobia

September 25, 2015 //  by Tony White

The child refuses to go to school or demonstrates repeated illnesses in an attempt to avoid school.

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Category: child development, Dependency, familyTag: bed wetting, clining behaviour, nightmares, school phobia

Maternal motivations and the Don’t be separate injunction

September 7, 2015 //  by Tony White

There has been found to be four common motivators for a mother to tell a child not to separate from her. This shows how the injunction comes from the mother’s own needy Child ego state wants and desires.

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Category: child development, Child ego state, familyTag: life script, over protection, parental need

Two levels of assertion training

March 20, 2015 //  by Tony White

It is said that the 3 year old is assentive whilst the 4 year old is assertive. People with assertion problems maybe fixated at this stage.

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Category: child development, familyTag: Assertion training, child development, individuation, separation

Authority problem and the good child in the family

January 18, 2015 //  by Tony White

If one has the opportunity it is pertinent to ask the parents about the good child in the family. The one who is not making any noise can be the one in most pain.

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Category: counselling, family, teenagerTag: authority problem, rebellious child, teenager

Adolescence, collectivism and individualism

December 2, 2014 //  by Tony White

Of course this has significant implications for therapists in countries like Australia. We have long been indoctrinated by the theories of Margaret Mahler and John Bowlby who both adopt a very individualistic approach in their theories. It would seem wise to be much more understanding of the communal family structures.

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Category: family, society values, teenagerTag: family, teenager

Two models of adolescent development

November 6, 2014 //  by Tony White

First, this is better for the parents (which in turn is better for the children) because there is usually more support readily available. Second, from an attachment theory point of view it is better if children are raised in a polymatric family rather than a monomatric family.

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Category: family, society values, teenagerTag: adolescence, collectivism, family structure, individualism

The family secret

October 14, 2014 //  by Tony White

The therapeutic response is clear. Get the family secret exposed and this can change family dynamics, quite profoundly at times.

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Category: counselling, Eating disorder, family, systems theoryTag: family dynamics, family secret, family structure, Family therapy

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