Psychologist
The redecision therapy use of regression Regression is the return to an earlier childhood phase of a persons psychological development. It can be both a defence mechanism and a natural human process. As a defence mechanism when a person feels anxiety they cope with it by again feeling and thinking like they were a …
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The final part of this composition on strengthening the Adult ego state seeks a different path. The previous three parts are examining behavioural strategies to assist a person to increase their Adult ego state functioning when under stress. This section will look at some of the underlying causes that may lead to poor Adult ego …
The person who flees the scene of an accident or the hit and run driver has the flight response.
As any child therapist knows the ‘client’ is the child and the parent child relationship. They are a package deal.
Instead you acknowledge its power in the therapy process and begin talking to it and forming relational contact when and how it wants. You don’t have a choice to do it any other way. As Berne says, it holds all the cards to play at any time it wants.
Of course it works the other way as well. “Good” belief systems are also resilient and resistant to change.
People are adding new introjections to their Parent ego state continuously through out life as part of normal psychological functioning.
The Child ego state develops through early decisions and the Parent ego state develops through introjections.
However as is the case with human behaviour once the script gets set the person will start to do things that promote the life script even as they protest against it.
However maybe this is not so true with every adolescent especially the 20% I am referring to. Perhaps there is just not a strong drive or need in this group of people and the assumption that all people have this need is an incorrect assumption.
When a child is in a new and unknown situation that is emotionally charged it will try and read how mother is emotionally reacting in its attempt to get a base line for itself.
In my office I have a dolls house, which I use when I see children and their parents for therapy. I find it can produce valuable information about the psyche of the child. What is going on inside the child’s head at that time.
A significant attachment figure was never fully internalised in childhood and thus there is a sense of a hole inside self. The therapist is used by the client to fill that hole.
Anger is a distancing emotion it pushes people apart. When people want distance in a relationship anger can be used to achieve this
First and foremost anger is always potentially life threatening.
Research on what parents believe children can do at various ages found significant gaps in parental expectations in some core areas of child psychological development
If handled correctly by the parents it allows the child to develop out of its primary narcissism and to develop a sense of the worth of others.
Of course all parents project onto their offspring and at times identify with personality characteristics in their children.
Three children is the maximum that one parent can emotionally cover. After that sub groupings amongst siblings will form.
Since that time the work on this concept has continued and the demon like qualities that can also be found in the archetype of Lillith, are applicable to more people but in less pure form as described here.
Psychotherapy can in this sense be seen as a feminizing pursuit, particularly for the male.
Despite the reason, we humans can’t keep a secret. We will say it out. The key is for the listener to stop listening and start watching. As a therapist it is certainly better to do this regularly with your clients.
As we know A1 thinking can be magical thinking and this would explain why the paranoid personality can have at times quite bizarre beliefs. Such as thoughts being monitored by people who are not of this earth.
In play children will tend to do what they think is the right thing. Follow formulas that are known to them.
That is of course a Critical Parent to Child transaction. A very difficult transaction to do well. And such a crucial one for parents to master
That we can pass on the ‘hot potatoe’ to someone else such that we can avoid sacrificing self.
My personal view is there is a solid argument for the idea that a child cannot suicide. If one uses the term ‘child suicide’ that is quite misleading as the vast majority of people will assume it to have some similarity to the adult suicide which it most definitely has not.
This makes it especially difficult for children from wealthy families who can struggle to gain a sense of who they are as the parent(s) ‘shadow’ is so large.
Naming a child after a family member or a famous person can be a particularly hazardous task. If a chid is named after uncle Harry, that is all good and well, except that uncle Harry was a boozer and a womaniser. The child is being given that label to wear for its life time.
This explanation could go some of the way to answering why those who use physical violence in relationships are so hard to engage in treatment programmes. They perceive, feel and experience the use of such violence as a natural, Free Child, ego syntonic thing to do.
