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therapy

The client’s chair in the therapy room.

February 23, 2019 //  by Tony White

I have always said that a therapist’s room must be a bit beige, no high fashion and no dramatic statements.

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Category: PsychotherapyTag: client chair, therapy

Is it OK for a therapist to be proud of a client’s achievements?

February 18, 2019 //  by Tony White

Then I wondered if that is OK to say to a client. I wondered if it was a bit paternalistic

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Category: PsychotherapyTag: feelings in therapy, pride, therapy

Working with the demon in therapy

December 29, 2018 //  by Tony White

As I said, this was the first time we had ever had significant dialogue between me and this part of her. It will be interesting to see over time what happens, especially her reaction to me.

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Category: UncategorizedTag: demon sub personality, self destruction, therapy

Examination of the demon personality

December 23, 2018 //  by Tony White

Instead you acknowledge its power in the therapy process and begin talking to it and forming relational contact when and how it wants. You don’t have a choice to do it any other way. As Berne says, it holds all the cards to play at any time it wants.

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Category: child development, Eating disorderTag: demon, therapy

The therapist’s role in bringing up sensitive topics in therapy

May 5, 2018 //  by Tony White

If one allows the client to avoid it for long periods of time and addresses it in a very a tepid way that may empower the shame.

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Category: AnorexiaTag: Anorexia, no suicide contract, self harm, shame, therapy

Stroke intensity and life style

April 8, 2016 //  by Tony White

Really the only solution is to change from negative strokes to positive strokes but negative strokes always have more potency than positive strokes.

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Category: Addiction, drugTag: therapy, Transactional analysis

Seeking Free Child change

April 5, 2016 //  by Tony White

Successful psychotherapy usually involves the individual experiencing what they want (FC) and then devising a successful plan to get that.

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Category: Addiction, Alcoholic, Child ego stateTag: parent ego state, smoking, therapy

Three alternate responses to transference

February 27, 2016 //  by Tony White

2. Reparenting or relational. Instead of explaining the transactions, the therapist invites the client to express the anger at the therapist directly.

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Category: Marriage, PsychotherapyTag: Ego states, therapy, transference

The price of privacy

December 5, 2015 //  by Tony White

As a general rule, In Australia, police do not have the powers to require health professionals to provide them with information about a client.

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Category: Psychotherapy, society valuesTag: bonnie and clyde, confidentiality, therapy

Leading questions in psychotherapy

September 13, 2015 //  by Tony White

Hence leading questions can be used as a type of hypnotic suggestion to assist the client. BUT the therapist has to be sure their interpretation of the client is accurate.

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Category: Dependency, PersonalityTag: hypnosis, memory, therapy

Introjection in therapy

September 4, 2015 //  by Tony White

Introjection involves a person ingesting or taking in the other person’s personality into their Parent ego state such that it becomes part of them.

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Category: Personality, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: introjection, therapy, Transactional analysis

The “Are you still there?” session

August 27, 2015 //  by Tony White

Is he still there and is he still the same? – is what I think is behind this revisit. As a therapist it feels kind of nice when that happens.

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Category: Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: client, counselling, therapy

The therapist and who I am

August 26, 2015 //  by Tony White

It’s like the two person psychology and the idea of co creation they are based on a philosophy of no individual personal power. One isn’t who they are as an individual, instead one just becomes part of relationship and is powerless to be the core of who they are.

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Category: Personality, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: individuation, therapy, who am I?

The Doctor of Love

July 4, 2015 //  by Tony White

They don’t fall in love with the therapist, instead they fall in love with a shadow of a person where they fill in the gaps with positive personality features.

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Category: Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: Free child, relationships, therapy, transference

The male teenager in counselling

June 7, 2015 //  by Tony White

The male teenager often thinks he can just tough it out. If he does not think about it, it will just go away, is a common viewpoint for the male teenager. As we know when there is significant feelings this does not work in the long run.

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Category: Psychotherapy, teenagerTag: body dysmorphia, goodbye work, male teenager, therapy

Implied communication in psychotherapy

April 23, 2015 //  by Tony White

Mother and father can say and do all sorts of different things to the child – good and bad – those actions tell the youngster if he is OK or not OK. But it is ultimately the youngster who chooses whether to accept or not accept the psychological message.

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Category: counselling, Psychotherapy, society valuesTag: redecision, therapy

Characteristics of transference

March 13, 2015 //  by Tony White

Transference neurosis refers to the situation in psychotherapy where the client will establish the same type and pattern of relationship with the therapist that he had with his original mother and father.

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Category: counselling, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: Ego states, therapy, transference

The two sides of goodbye work

January 19, 2015 //  by Tony White

Full contact in relationships is something that many humans seek but at the same time can be frightening. It seems safe to say that the natural human condition is to have quite a strong ambivalence about emotional intimacy in relationship.

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Category: grief, Relationship, society valuesTag: grief, here and now, therapy

Reverse psychology as a therapeutic approach

December 11, 2014 //  by Tony White

I had refused to engage her RC therapy and instead suggested some Free Child activity we could do. Maybe that had allowed her to at last discover that her Free Child didn’t want to smoke anymore.

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Category: Addiction, Child ego state, Dependency, PsychotherapyTag: addiction, drug, rebellious child, smoking, therapy

Working with the Conforming Child, Rebellious Child and Free Child ego states

December 6, 2014 //  by Tony White

In essence you begin to gain a bit of respect. If the Rebellious Child starts to
respect the counsellor as a person, then the individual becomes more receptive to
the therapeutic benefits of the counselling.

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Category: Child ego state, Psychotherapy, teenagerTag: Ego states, rebellion, therapy

Neediness in relationship

May 24, 2014 //  by Tony White

(I was asked about neediness the other day and how to deal with it) Why would a woman repetitively become involved with men who are needy. Men who require emotional propping up. Therapy The focus of therapy is about her, not about him. She has probably spent some time discussing him with friends and family …

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Category: All Blog Posts, Dependency, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: dependency, empower, life script, therapy

Neediness in relationship

May 24, 2014 //  by Tony White

That she chooses needy men just as much as they choose her. Her pattern is not bad luck or some kind of fate. She needs needy men just as much as needy men need her.

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Category: Dependency, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: dependency, empower, life script, therapy

Social development – History taking

May 22, 2014 //  by Tony White

They are barriers people often use to avoid getting into relationships. There are many and varied reasons why people avoid forming an intimate relationships with a mate.

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Category: child development, Psychotherapy, Social developmentTag: adolescence, adulthood, history taking, isolation, redecision, therapy

Stroke deprivation

December 29, 2013 //  by Tony White

As Eric Berne said, “A stroke is a unit of attention” and one can have positive strokes and negative strokes. As a therapist it is easy to forget the importance of strokes and the important therapeutic role they can play. The importance of them is no better demonstrated than by looking at a whole discipline …

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Category: Theory, UncategorizedTag: child, depression, stroke deprivation, strokes, therapy

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