Halloween make up, like these pictures, allows the teenage girl to release her sublimated urges to self harm, leading to a healthy outcome.
Adolescence, anger and what to do
Behind the fun loving rule breakers are a group with quite conventional views who are quite conforming to their peers. More than the average adult.
Fotographia
Interestingly my comments have changed over time. What I was saying in the first ones is different to what I am saying in them now and again I have no idea what that means, or the point of it is, or what the evolution is.
Responding to client praise.
Psychological change is a very personal and intimate thing that can touch the very core of who we are. If a client reaches out to a therapist and seeks to acknowledge their role in what has been a very personal experience for them, maybe it is a discount not to do so
Adolescence, anger and what to do – part 3
It is hoped adolescents can learn these process of argument and disagreement. The more they do the more successful their relationships in adulthood will be.
Adolescence, anger and what to do – part 2.
One deals with the anger problem by not talking about it, which may seem a little odd.
Fantasy stage of child development
This part of the personality is engaged with things like the Harry Potter stories. It can also be found in Batman with characters like the Penguin and the Joker. They are presented as mischievous, irreverent and yet appealing characters.
Adolescence, anger and what to do
If this is happening the therapist again must be open to the idea that mother or father secretly delight in the angry self destructive acts of the teenager. This allows the mother or father to avoid the expression of their own self destructiveness.
School refusal or school phobia
The child refuses to go to school or demonstrates repeated illnesses in an attempt to avoid school.
Client factors in successful therapy
To be able and willing to show and release emotions in therapy is going to significantly improve the prognosis. Those who have trouble doing so will tend not to respond so successfully to treatment.
Leading questions in psychotherapy
Hence leading questions can be used as a type of hypnotic suggestion to assist the client. BUT the therapist has to be sure their interpretation of the client is accurate.
Life script messages – drivers and injunctions
The more emotionally important the relationship is to us the more we will begin to bring these insecurities into the relationship. Hence they tend to come out with our partners and in marriages.
Maternal motivations and the Don’t be separate injunction
There has been found to be four common motivators for a mother to tell a child not to separate from her. This shows how the injunction comes from the mother’s own needy Child ego state wants and desires.
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Introjection in therapy
Introjection involves a person ingesting or taking in the other person’s personality into their Parent ego state such that it becomes part of them.
Understanding the suicide note – Part 3
If we have two people who are potentially suicidal that special connection can be about suiciding together. Hence we end up with the suicide pact.
Understanding the suicide note – Part 2
Thus one can understand the logic behind her decision to make a significant suicide attempt. Her times of madness cause her great pain and cause pain for those around her. No one knows how long it will last this time and how many more times in the future it will happen again.
Understanding the suicide note
The point here in the suicide note of Adolf Hitler is it reflects a business like approach to making a suicide attempt.
The “Are you still there?” session
Is he still there and is he still the same? – is what I think is behind this revisit. As a therapist it feels kind of nice when that happens.
The therapist and who I am
It’s like the two person psychology and the idea of co creation they are based on a philosophy of no individual personal power. One isn’t who they are as an individual, instead one just becomes part of relationship and is powerless to be the core of who they are.
The loneliness of the long distance therapist
I recall reading a book called The loneliness of the long distance runner. When I first saw this photograph of myself I thought of the phrase, The loneliness of the long distance therapist.
Life script and the chemistry of love.
You know it if you have had it – chemistry. You meet someone and you get that special feeling that is a very strong motivator. You know when you have it but you can’t really describe it.
Therapeutic community and who we are
Humans are naturally group like creatures. It is natural for them to form into groups. It is natural for them to form into groups and discuss things including the problems they are having both practical and psychological. Indeed it is argued by Farhad Dalal that the social or group is the most primal aspect of …
Therapeutic community culture and the Free Child
The Gouldings developed a method of group psychotherapy known as the marathon. This is a therapeutic experience where the members of the therapy group would live together for a period of time and are all part of a therapy group. This could last for one weekend or one week. This structure allows for the …
The role of magical thinking in suicide risk assessment
Obviously if one is doing a suicide risk assessment they need to assess how much A1 thinking is going on for the person and how influential it is as the executive of the personality. The more it is the higher the imminent risk of suicide.
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The Doctor of Love
They don’t fall in love with the therapist, instead they fall in love with a shadow of a person where they fill in the gaps with positive personality features.
Homicide suicide decisions
In the search for a more robust definition or understanding of suicide it seems imperative to acknowledge the role that homicide can play in certain instances of suicide. As well as acknowledging the role accidents can play in the expression of suicidal ambivalence
Suicide decisions
#4 can include ‘death by cop’, some of those on death row, associating with very violent people such as in organised crime, non compliance to medical advice with life threatening conditions, voluntarily entering a war zone.
Games children play – Happy to help
Sometimes it is the only position left in the family. As a new child enters the family and grows into it he has to find where he fits. The parents have the Parent and Adult ego states covered and a sibling may have the outspoken, demanding position taken so the ‘happy to help’ good child position is the only one left.
The psychology of touch avoidance
Around the age of 4 years children are working out if they perceive self as male or female. This is not related to their sexual anatomy. Instead it is about their psychological perception of self.
The male teenager in counselling
The male teenager often thinks he can just tough it out. If he does not think about it, it will just go away, is a common viewpoint for the male teenager. As we know when there is significant feelings this does not work in the long run.