A friend recently asked me if I would support her in court, which I agreed to. A person hurt a loved one of hers and I am soon to attend the sentencing with her. She reports that she wants to be there, to see “him go down”. Revenge is an interesting emotion, so primal and …
However maybe this is not so true with every adolescent especially the 20% I am referring to. Perhaps there is just not a strong drive or need in this group of people and the assumption that all people have this need is an incorrect assumption.
First and foremost anger is always potentially life threatening.
My experience with those who are close to a suicidal person finds the feeling and thinking responses to be wide and varied. By no means are they all negative as one might logically expect.
Behind the fun loving rule breakers are a group with quite conventional views who are quite conforming to their peers. More than the average adult.
If this is happening the therapist again must be open to the idea that mother or father secretly delight in the angry self destructive acts of the teenager. This allows the mother or father to avoid the expression of their own self destructiveness.