Discounting a child’s perception of reality. I was doing some mother-son therapy the other day. As a consequence of our discussions she asked if I would put my views in writing. I was informed by mother that at the boy’s school in years 1 to 3 they do not have winning and loosing. When the …
If she believes this (with or without his encouragement) she finds herself in the same relationship dynamics as the teenager who is not economically separate from the parents. The marriage will then suffer.
Some female anorexics are seeking to make their bodies (and therefore sense of self) pre pubertal.
The solution being suggested here is reflective of one of the main parenting problems in current day society. How and when do you let a child suffer on its own?
In essence the Parent and Child ego states free up the Adult to engage in higher level cognitive functions and relationship skills. Indeed the Adult ego state is dependent on having active Parent and Child ego states influencing it.
The problem with experiencing emotional intimacy with another is that it also frightens people.