A significant attachment figure was never fully internalised in childhood and thus there is a sense of a hole inside self. The therapist is used by the client to fill that hole.
If one allows the client to avoid it for long periods of time and addresses it in a very a tepid way that may empower the shame.
The magical thinking about suicide is that it can result in a relief from one’s pain.
Of course big feelings do occur in childhood, sometimes many of them occur and many are not dealt with or resolved as the child cannot articulate its need to do so
Recent research on what teenagers see as, “What makes a good person”. They were asked to rate the qualities of people who were good people. This indicates teenagers are a conventional group of people in these views. But this seems incongruent as the teenage stage is often an angry stage of storm and stress. The …
The wall of trivia allows for two people to keep an emotional distance from each other.
Provide lots of positive stokes to the PA and work on how they may filter the strokes.
The child from the wealthy family is more likely to be left with the question – Who am I?
Anger is a distancing emotion it pushes people apart. When people want distance in a relationship anger can be used to achieve this
I personally disagree with this. In my view humans are naturally communal beings and we need (are dependent) on others at least to some degree.
The goal is to stop the drug use but in the very nature of the treatment one is giving permission to take drugs. Same in the Redecision therapy I use
If the conscious and unconscious want different things always give the client what the unconscious wants.
“I am not one who fears the end of life. I think when it comes it will be a relief. Can finally rest.”
An internal LOC is a empowering position. It is saying to the person, you can take charge and change your life. You are the one in control of your life script, feelings and so forth.
But then after halloween is over that part of us is quickly packed away again safe from our conscious.
First and foremost anger is always potentially life threatening.
Research on what parents believe children can do at various ages found significant gaps in parental expectations in some core areas of child psychological development
If handled correctly by the parents it allows the child to develop out of its primary narcissism and to develop a sense of the worth of others.
It is imperative a therapist seek to engage with the Free Child of the teenage client. But many therapist’s forget this and stay focussed only on the Rebellious Child
Permissions can also be given in an implied way. A therapist who listens to a client and accepts a contract is covertly giving the permission to change
Depression does not cause suicide. However Transactional Analysis can provide a clear theoretical explanation of why one depressed person can be suicidal and another is not even thinking about i
Again it will lead to a sense of feeling heard and feeling some level of relationship building with another person.
It is the Free Child to Free Child interactions that provide for the emotional intimacy between two people.
In reality there are as many personality types as there are people on this planet, over 6 billion.
Of course all parents project onto their offspring and at times identify with personality characteristics in their children.
In essence homicide-suicide is seen as a subtype of suicide.
Indeed if a rescuer is doing this then they really cannot be seen as a rescuer and would need to be more correctly diagnosed as a persecutor.
In working with enactments the therapist must seek to become aware of their unconscious and dissociated parts of self.
2. If things get too bad I will kill myself and others.
At some point one needs to switch from rejecting this part of self to an integration of it.