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Psychologist

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  • Books
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Working with the rebellious person

May 8, 2018 //  by Tony White

Listening to a person talk about how they cut self is stress producing for most people including therapists. The therapist needs to be clear they do not fall into subtly pressuring the client into making the contract due to their own anxieties.

Working with the rebellious personRead More

Category: self harm, teenagerTag: rebellious child, self harm, teenager, Transactional analysis

Despair and its treatment

May 6, 2018 //  by Tony White

A significant attachment figure was never fully internalised in childhood and thus there is a sense of a hole inside self. The therapist is used by the client to fill that hole.

Despair and its treatmentRead More

Category: child developmentTag: attachment, despair, emotions, feelings

The therapist’s role in bringing up sensitive topics in therapy

May 5, 2018 //  by Tony White

If one allows the client to avoid it for long periods of time and addresses it in a very a tepid way that may empower the shame.

The therapist’s role in bringing up sensitive topics in therapyRead More

Category: AnorexiaTag: Anorexia, no suicide contract, self harm, shame, therapy

Confronting magical thinking about suicide

April 20, 2018 //  by Tony White

The magical thinking about suicide is that it can result in a relief from one’s pain.

Confronting magical thinking about suicideRead More

Category: suicideTag: Ego states, magical thinking, suicide, Transactional analysis

Big feelings and little feelings

April 11, 2018 //  by Tony White

Of course big feelings do occur in childhood, sometimes many of them occur and many are not dealt with or resolved as the child cannot articulate its need to do so

Big feelings and little feelingsRead More

Category: emotionsTag: feelings

Teenage conventional thinking

April 9, 2018 //  by Tony White

Recent research on what teenagers see as, “What makes a good person”. They were asked to rate the qualities of people who were good people. This indicates teenagers are a conventional group of people in these views. But this seems incongruent as the teenage stage is often an angry stage of storm and stress. The …

Teenage conventional thinkingRead More

Category: teenagerTag: rebellion

Wall of trivia

April 8, 2018 //  by Tony White

The wall of trivia allows for two people to keep an emotional distance from each other.

Wall of triviaRead More

Category: RelationshipTag: relationship

Treatment of the passive aggressive personality

April 2, 2018 //  by Tony White

Provide lots of positive stokes to the PA and work on how they may filter the strokes.

Treatment of the passive aggressive personalityRead More

Category: PersonalityTag: passive aggressive personality

Developmental problems for the child from the affluent family

March 25, 2018 //  by Tony White

The child from the wealthy family is more likely to be left with the question – Who am I?

Developmental problems for the child from the affluent familyRead More

Category: teenagerTag: depression, identity

Features of rackets

March 16, 2018 //  by Tony White

Anger is a distancing emotion it pushes people apart. When people want distance in a relationship anger can be used to achieve this

Features of racketsRead More

Category: child developmentTag: emotions, feelings

Working through scared feelings.

March 11, 2018 //  by Tony White

I personally disagree with this. In my view humans are naturally communal beings and we need (are dependent) on others at least to some degree.

Working through scared feelings.Read More

Category: UncategorizedTag: Ego states, feelings, scare, shame, Transactional analysis, working through feelings

Aversion therapy & implied communication in therapy

March 9, 2018 //  by Tony White

The goal is to stop the drug use but in the very nature of the treatment one is giving permission to take drugs. Same in the Redecision therapy I use

Aversion therapy & implied communication in therapyRead More

Category: PsychotherapyTag: Aversion therapy, implied communication, psychotherapy

Unconscious communication in therapy

March 1, 2018 //  by Tony White

If the conscious and unconscious want different things always give the client what the unconscious wants.

Unconscious communication in therapyRead More

Category: UncategorizedTag: unconscious communication

Post suicide fantasy

February 25, 2018 //  by Tony White

“I am not one who fears the end of life. I think when it comes it will be a relief. Can finally rest.”

Post suicide fantasyRead More

Category: suicideTag: samsonic, suicide

Redecision therapy reconsidered

February 2, 2018 //  by Tony White

An internal LOC is a empowering position. It is saying to the person, you can take charge and change your life. You are the one in control of your life script, feelings and so forth.

Redecision therapy reconsideredRead More

Category: TheoryTag: redecision therapy

The shadow

January 21, 2018 //  by Tony White

But then after halloween is over that part of us is quickly packed away again safe from our conscious.

The shadowRead More

Category: UncategorizedTag: shadow

Why is anger seen as bad

January 16, 2018 //  by Tony White

First and foremost anger is always potentially life threatening.

Why is anger seen as badRead More

Category: child developmentTag: anger, child development

Parental expectations of children

January 11, 2018 //  by Tony White

Research on what parents believe children can do at various ages found significant gaps in parental expectations in some core areas of child psychological development

Parental expectations of childrenRead More

Category: child developmentTag: children psychology

Developmental significance of jealousy

January 10, 2018 //  by Tony White

If handled correctly by the parents it allows the child to develop out of its primary narcissism and to develop a sense of the worth of others.

Developmental significance of jealousyRead More

Category: child developmentTag: Jealousy

Reverse psychology as a therapeutic approach (and the teenager)

January 10, 2018 //  by Tony White

It is imperative a therapist seek to engage with the Free Child of the teenage client. But many therapist’s forget this and stay focussed only on the Rebellious Child

Reverse psychology as a therapeutic approach (and the teenager)Read More

Category: AddictionTag: smoking

Nonverbal permissions by default

January 2, 2018 //  by Tony White

Permissions can also be given in an implied way. A therapist who listens to a client and accepts a contract is covertly giving the permission to change

Nonverbal permissions by defaultRead More

Category: suicideTag: permission, suicide

Depression and suicide

November 24, 2017 //  by Tony White

Depression does not cause suicide. However Transactional Analysis can provide a clear theoretical explanation of why one depressed person can be suicidal and another is not even thinking about i

Depression and suicideRead More

Category: suicideTag: transactional, transactions

Relational contact in the Parent interview

August 14, 2017 //  by Tony White

Again it will lead to a sense of feeling heard and feeling some level of relationship building with another person.

Relational contact in the Parent interviewRead More

Category: PsychotherapyTag: psychotherapy

Wall of trivia

July 1, 2017 //  by Tony White

It is the Free Child to Free Child interactions that provide for the emotional intimacy between two people.

Wall of triviaRead More

Category: Marriage, RelationshipTag: fear of intimacy, Marriage

How many personality types is the right number?

June 23, 2017 //  by Tony White

In reality there are as many personality types as there are people on this planet, over 6 billion.

How many personality types is the right number?Read More

Category: Life positionTag: Transactional analysis

Goodness of fit in parenting

June 21, 2017 //  by Tony White

Of course all parents project onto their offspring and at times identify with personality characteristics in their children.

Goodness of fit in parentingRead More

Category: child development, parentingTag: child ego state, Parenting

Suicide and the copy cat effect

June 7, 2017 //  by Tony White

In essence homicide-suicide is seen as a subtype of suicide.

Suicide and the copy cat effectRead More

Category: suicideTag: homicide, suicide

Hot potatoe as a homicidal act.

April 10, 2017 //  by Tony White

Indeed if a rescuer is doing this then they really cannot be seen as a rescuer and would need to be more correctly diagnosed as a persecutor.

Hot potatoe as a homicidal act.Read More

Category: drug, suicideTag: homicide, suicide

Listening to the unconscious in self

March 22, 2017 //  by Tony White

In working with enactments the therapist must seek to become aware of their unconscious and dissociated parts of self.

Listening to the unconscious in selfRead More

Category: TheoryTag: enactment, games, unconscious

The suicide homicide attempt

February 21, 2017 //  by Tony White

2. If things get too bad I will kill myself and others.

The suicide homicide attemptRead More

Category: suicide, UncategorizedTag: suicide

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