For a family system drug user it is actually a good thing, as it is easier for the person to eventually stop using the drug.
It is imperative a therapist seek to engage with the Free Child of the teenage client. But many therapist’s forget this and stay focussed only on the Rebellious Child
So if there is a war, as we are told, then the enemy is not doing very well.
Most people entering counselling will be most surprised by this and are not expecting the drug counsellor to be of this mind at all.
Really the only solution is to change from negative strokes to positive strokes but negative strokes always have more potency than positive strokes.
Successful psychotherapy usually involves the individual experiencing what they want (FC) and then devising a successful plan to get that.
The paranoid wont respect the therapist (see them as having a potency) unless they prove themselves to be a good thinker, that can at least match the paranoid in this way.
I had refused to engage her RC therapy and instead suggested some Free Child activity we could do. Maybe that had allowed her to at last discover that her Free Child didn’t want to smoke anymore.
When marriage occurs one marries the individual person and also marries their family structure all their attachments and relationships as well.
Drugs do not grab people and draw them into addiction. The person with a particular personality structure will go and find their drug of choice and then an addiction will ensue.