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child development

Adult ego state strengthening – Post 4

March 25, 2020 //  by Tony White

The final part of this composition on strengthening the Adult ego state seeks a different path. The previous three parts are examining behavioural strategies to assist a person to increase their Adult ego state functioning when under stress. This section will look at some of the underlying causes that may lead to poor Adult ego …

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Category: All Blog Posts, child developmentTag: adult ego state, child development, Ego states, Parenting

Why is anger seen as bad

January 16, 2018 //  by Tony White

First and foremost anger is always potentially life threatening.

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Category: child developmentTag: anger, child development

The executive of the personality

January 15, 2017 //  by Tony White

Most efforts are directed at the the executive of the personality, the Child, but still a significant amount of effort is directed at the Parent and Adult influencing the Child’s direction.

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Category: Psychotherapy, TheoryTag: child development, exectutive of personality

Birth order and personality

January 8, 2017 //  by Tony White

Three children is the maximum that one parent can emotionally cover. After that sub groupings amongst siblings will form.

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Category: child developmentTag: adler, birth order, child development

Child suicide

March 11, 2016 //  by Tony White

My personal view is there is a solid argument for the idea that a child cannot suicide. If one uses the term ‘child suicide’ that is quite misleading as the vast majority of people will assume it to have some similarity to the adult suicide which it most definitely has not.

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Category: child development, suicideTag: child development, suicide

Violence and personality

November 5, 2015 //  by Tony White

This explanation could go some of the way to answering why those who use physical violence in relationships are so hard to engage in treatment programmes. They perceive, feel and experience the use of such violence as a natural, Free Child, ego syntonic thing to do.

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Category: child development, PersonalityTag: child development, Ego states, violence

Fantasy stage of child development

September 27, 2015 //  by Tony White

This part of the personality is engaged with things like the Harry Potter stories. It can also be found in Batman with characters like the Penguin and the Joker. They are presented as mischievous, irreverent and yet appealing characters.

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Category: child development, PersonalityTag: child development, Ego states, Transactional analysis

Life script messages – drivers and injunctions

September 8, 2015 //  by Tony White

The more emotionally important the relationship is to us the more we will begin to bring these insecurities into the relationship. Hence they tend to come out with our partners and in marriages.

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Category: child development, identityTag: child development, injunction, life script

Games children play – Happy to help

June 15, 2015 //  by Tony White

Sometimes it is the only position left in the family. As a new child enters the family and grows into it he has to find where he fits. The parents have the Parent and Adult ego states covered and a sibling may have the outspoken, demanding position taken so the ‘happy to help’ good child position is the only one left.

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Category: child development, parenting, PersonalityTag: anxiety, child development, conforming child, family structure

Two levels of assertion training

March 20, 2015 //  by Tony White

It is said that the 3 year old is assentive whilst the 4 year old is assertive. People with assertion problems maybe fixated at this stage.

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Category: child development, familyTag: Assertion training, child development, individuation, separation

Adolescence – the leaving home stage of development

September 20, 2014 //  by Tony White

When marriage occurs one marries the individual person and also marries their family structure all their attachments and relationships as well.

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Category: Addiction, child development, Eating disorder, identity, Marriage, teenagerTag: adolescence, child development, teenager

The three ego state integrative model

July 17, 2014 //  by Tony White

In essence the Parent and Child ego states free up the Adult to engage in higher level cognitive functions and relationship skills. Indeed the Adult ego state is dependent on having active Parent and Child ego states influencing it.

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Category: child development, ego statesTag: child development, Ego states, fixation, introjection

The descriptive model of ego states

June 26, 2014 //  by Tony White

The descriptive model of ego states sometimes also known as the functional model of ego states was originally presented by Eric Berne in his book “What Do You Say After You Say Hello”.

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Category: Child ego state, persoanlityTag: child, child development, Ego state, personality

Who am I? Therapeutic consequences.

June 22, 2014 //  by Tony White

Also they may have a strong Please me driver. This person defines self according to the needs and wants of others. The intent of this driver is to obtain nurture (love, approval) and avoid abandonment (rejection, loneliness) but in doing so they present as lacking substance or lack a sense of who they are.

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Category: child development, ego statesTag: Antiscript, child development, identity, please me, teenager

Therapy of self destructiveness

June 4, 2014 //  by Tony White

One does not seek to do therapy on this aspect of the personality but one embraces it and seeks to develop some kind of coexistence with it. One embraces their depression or learns to love their panic attacks one could say. It is accepted as a normal part of their thanatos. it can’t be changed even if one wanted to.

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Category: child development, counselling, UncategorizedTag: Adapted child, child development, Free child, life script, self destruction, thanatos

Idealization and introjection

May 16, 2014 //  by Tony White

This also highlights the process of hero worship as a psychological phenomena and how it influences our personality development.

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Category: child development, Parent ego state, TheoryTag: child development, hero worship, idealisation, introjection, parent ego state

Some therapeutic observations of the AA approach

January 13, 2014 //  by Tony White

In most counselling situations this can not occur. It may get too expensive and most often the person has to make appointments with the counsellor such that they have to wait days if not weeks to meet. Even if it is free or they can afford it most counsellors don’t really see the same client …

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Category: UncategorizedTag: alcohol, child development, Desensitization, dissociation, drugs

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