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Mature love, immature love and the teenager

October 25, 2020 //  by Tony White

Research into adolescent development has described the process that the young teenager uses to develop a mature sense of love. When the teenager enters into early adolescence they begin to have romantic and love feelings for another person for the first time in their life. This has been described as learning how to develop a …

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Category: teenager, TheoryTag: Ego states, immature love, love, Transactional analysis

Identification – Post 2

March 30, 2020 //  by Tony White

Identification allows for humans to have their own vicarious experiences Definition of vicarious experience –  1. Experienced in the imagination through the feelings or actions of another 2. Experienced or realised through imaginative or sympathetic participation in the experience of another Both of these talk of imagination and thus we could say this process works …

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Category: epi script, self harm, teenagerTag: epi script, identification, magical thinking, ugly parent syndrome, vicarious experience

Working with the rebellious person

May 8, 2018 //  by Tony White

Listening to a person talk about how they cut self is stress producing for most people including therapists. The therapist needs to be clear they do not fall into subtly pressuring the client into making the contract due to their own anxieties.

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Category: self harm, teenagerTag: rebellious child, self harm, teenager, Transactional analysis

Teenage conventional thinking

April 9, 2018 //  by Tony White

Recent research on what teenagers see as, “What makes a good person”. They were asked to rate the qualities of people who were good people. This indicates teenagers are a conventional group of people in these views. But this seems incongruent as the teenage stage is often an angry stage of storm and stress. The …

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Category: teenagerTag: rebellion

Developmental problems for the child from the affluent family

March 25, 2018 //  by Tony White

The child from the wealthy family is more likely to be left with the question – Who am I?

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Category: teenagerTag: depression, identity

Affluence and identity formation

December 20, 2015 //  by Tony White

This makes it especially difficult for children from wealthy families who can struggle to gain a sense of who they are as the parent(s) ‘shadow’ is so large.

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Category: child development, teenagerTag: identity formation, teenager, wealth

Halloween and violent fantasy

October 31, 2015 //  by Tony White

Halloween make up, like these pictures, allows the teenage girl to release her sublimated urges to self harm, leading to a healthy outcome.

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Category: child development, self harm, teenagerTag: Ego states, self harm, violent

The male teenager in counselling

June 7, 2015 //  by Tony White

The male teenager often thinks he can just tough it out. If he does not think about it, it will just go away, is a common viewpoint for the male teenager. As we know when there is significant feelings this does not work in the long run.

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Category: Psychotherapy, teenagerTag: body dysmorphia, goodbye work, male teenager, therapy

The romantic world of the teenager

February 15, 2015 //  by Tony White

As all the new ‘romantic things’ the teenager has to do become more automatic, the teenager is then afforded the ‘psychological space’ in their head to begin to experience the other in this new way. They can begin to experience the personality of the romantic other.

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Category: Relationship, romance, teenagerTag: development, relationship, romance, teenager

Authority problem and the good child in the family

January 18, 2015 //  by Tony White

If one has the opportunity it is pertinent to ask the parents about the good child in the family. The one who is not making any noise can be the one in most pain.

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Category: counselling, family, teenagerTag: authority problem, rebellious child, teenager

Christmas leisure time

December 24, 2014 //  by Tony White

The teenager is meant to learn how to make wise use of his leisure time. This is psychologically important because it reflects the development of the Free Child ego state in the personality.

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Category: Social development, society values, teenagerTag: Free child, leisure, teenager

Working with the Conforming Child, Rebellious Child and Free Child ego states

December 6, 2014 //  by Tony White

In essence you begin to gain a bit of respect. If the Rebellious Child starts to
respect the counsellor as a person, then the individual becomes more receptive to
the therapeutic benefits of the counselling.

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Category: Child ego state, Psychotherapy, teenagerTag: Ego states, rebellion, therapy

Adolescence, collectivism and individualism

December 2, 2014 //  by Tony White

Of course this has significant implications for therapists in countries like Australia. We have long been indoctrinated by the theories of Margaret Mahler and John Bowlby who both adopt a very individualistic approach in their theories. It would seem wise to be much more understanding of the communal family structures.

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Category: family, society values, teenagerTag: family, teenager

Two models of adolescent development

November 6, 2014 //  by Tony White

First, this is better for the parents (which in turn is better for the children) because there is usually more support readily available. Second, from an attachment theory point of view it is better if children are raised in a polymatric family rather than a monomatric family.

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Category: family, society values, teenagerTag: adolescence, collectivism, family structure, individualism

Teenagers, death and dying

October 25, 2014 //  by Tony White

Even in death, suicide and murder there is still a childlike innocence, because they are still childlike thinkers to some degree.

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Category: experimentation, suicide, teenagerTag: murder, suicide, teen killers

Adolescence – the leaving home stage of development

September 20, 2014 //  by Tony White

When marriage occurs one marries the individual person and also marries their family structure all their attachments and relationships as well.

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Category: Addiction, child development, Eating disorder, identity, Marriage, teenagerTag: adolescence, child development, teenager

The young adult and independence

July 28, 2014 //  by Tony White

If she believes this (with or without his encouragement) she finds herself in the same relationship dynamics as the teenager who is not economically separate from the parents. The marriage will then suffer.

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Category: Dependency, Marriage, Relationship, systems theory, teenagerTag: individuation, Marriage, separation, teenager

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