Alfred Adler in the 1930s, for the first time suggested the idea that birth order can have a lasting influence on personality and behavior According to him the eldest child is socially dominant and intellectual, but tends to seek approval from others because he is no longer the center of attention following the birth of a sibling; that the middle child, being sandwiched between older and younger siblings, is competitive and diplomatic; and that the youngest child tends to be selfish and demanding, since he is used to being provided for.
Oldest child (more exaggerated if male)
Injunctions
Don’t be a child
Don’t feel
Don’t be important
Don’t enjoy
Drivers
Work hard
Be strong
Largest ego states
Adult and Parent ego states
Life script
Non-winner
Personality type
O/C
Schizoid
Paranoid
Defence mechanisms
Repression
Denial
Intellectualisation
Youngest child (more exaggerated if female)
Injunctions
Don’t grow up
Don’t succeed
Don’t
Don’t think
Don’t be separate
Largest ego state
Child ego state
Life script
Winner or loser
Drivers
Please others
Personality type
Narcissistic
Histrionic
Dependent
Defence mechanisms
Regression
Acting out
Fantasy
Introjection
Sub groupings
Three children is the maximum that one parent can emotionally cover. After that sub groupings amongst siblings will form. Sub groupings are when two or more siblings establish a Parent Child relationship between them. The parent role sibling will exhibit oldest child qualities and the child role sibling will exhibit youngest child qualities. This may be encouraged by the parents.
Only child is usually an exaggeration of the youngest child qualities
well,
the oldest one has a “non winner” script? – that’s explains much about me.
by the way – I would like to read more about these scripts, injunctions … – where they’re from, how they work – is there something to read on that subject (possibly e-book or a website over a paper book)
regards,