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Psychotherapy

The “Are you still there?” session

August 27, 2015 //  by Tony White

Is he still there and is he still the same? – is what I think is behind this revisit. As a therapist it feels kind of nice when that happens.

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Category: Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: client, counselling, therapy

The therapist and who I am

August 26, 2015 //  by Tony White

It’s like the two person psychology and the idea of co creation they are based on a philosophy of no individual personal power. One isn’t who they are as an individual, instead one just becomes part of relationship and is powerless to be the core of who they are.

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Category: Personality, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: individuation, therapy, who am I?

The loneliness of the long distance therapist

August 23, 2015 //  by Tony White

I recall reading a book called The loneliness of the long distance runner. When I first saw this photograph of myself I thought of the phrase, The loneliness of the long distance therapist.

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Category: Child ego state, counselling, PsychotherapyTag: group therapy, loneliness, redecision

The Doctor of Love

July 4, 2015 //  by Tony White

They don’t fall in love with the therapist, instead they fall in love with a shadow of a person where they fill in the gaps with positive personality features.

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Category: Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: Free child, relationships, therapy, transference

The male teenager in counselling

June 7, 2015 //  by Tony White

The male teenager often thinks he can just tough it out. If he does not think about it, it will just go away, is a common viewpoint for the male teenager. As we know when there is significant feelings this does not work in the long run.

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Category: Psychotherapy, teenagerTag: body dysmorphia, goodbye work, male teenager, therapy

Implied communication in psychotherapy

April 23, 2015 //  by Tony White

Mother and father can say and do all sorts of different things to the child – good and bad – those actions tell the youngster if he is OK or not OK. But it is ultimately the youngster who chooses whether to accept or not accept the psychological message.

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Category: counselling, Psychotherapy, society valuesTag: redecision, therapy

Three ways of using transference in therapy

March 27, 2015 //  by Tony White

The client is then asked to respond to the therapist, who is now seen as say mother, in a way they always wanted to, but never did as a child. For instance the client may have been angry at mother but never expressed it, or they only expressed it in a passive aggressive way.

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Category: Psychotherapy, Relationship, UncategorizedTag: counter transference, psychotherapy, transference

Characteristics of transference

March 13, 2015 //  by Tony White

Transference neurosis refers to the situation in psychotherapy where the client will establish the same type and pattern of relationship with the therapist that he had with his original mother and father.

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Category: counselling, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: Ego states, therapy, transference

Getting over it and A1 thinking

February 24, 2015 //  by Tony White

A1 Black and white thinking. She is a bad person for hurting me. Behaviour can be the person.

A2 thinking can understand that all people are good and some just have unproductive behaviour or behaviour that hurts others. Behaviour is bad not the person.

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Category: Child ego state, parenting, PsychotherapyTag: counselling, forgiveness, fundamentalist thinking, magical thinking

Hurried child and OCD

February 16, 2015 //  by Tony White

The condition of OCD can sometimes result from being raised in a hurried child environment as a youngster. The child develops chronic anxiety and this manifests as OCD in adulthood. The anxiety residing in the person becomes expressed in some kind of obsessions and compulsions as they grow older.

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Category: Dependency, PsychotherapyTag: anxiety, magical thinking, OCD

Reverse psychology as a therapeutic approach

December 11, 2014 //  by Tony White

I had refused to engage her RC therapy and instead suggested some Free Child activity we could do. Maybe that had allowed her to at last discover that her Free Child didn’t want to smoke anymore.

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Category: Addiction, Child ego state, Dependency, PsychotherapyTag: addiction, drug, rebellious child, smoking, therapy

Working with the Conforming Child, Rebellious Child and Free Child ego states

December 6, 2014 //  by Tony White

In essence you begin to gain a bit of respect. If the Rebellious Child starts to
respect the counsellor as a person, then the individual becomes more receptive to
the therapeutic benefits of the counselling.

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Category: Child ego state, Psychotherapy, teenagerTag: Ego states, rebellion, therapy

Understanding the opposite sex.

October 22, 2014 //  by Tony White

Carl Jung was big on this idea. He said that a husband learns to see the women’s perspective because over time he introjects the wife’s personality into his own.

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Category: Marriage, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: female, male, Marriage

The Demon sub personality (Aka Lillith)

September 18, 2014 //  by Tony White

The therapist needs to build a special kind of relational contract with it over a period of time, and regularly maintain that contact in the therapeutic process. One has to go along with its destructiveness at times which can require some very wily and shrewd therapeutic interventions.

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Category: identity, Personality, PsychotherapyTag: counselling, demon, Ego states, life script, psychotherapy

Psychotherapy with Lillith

July 24, 2014 //  by Tony White

Some female anorexics are seeking to make their bodies (and therefore sense of self) pre pubertal.

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Category: Anorexia, Eating disorder, Personality, PsychotherapyTag: Anorexia, counselling, Lillith, personality

Psychotherapy of the antiscript stage of development

June 19, 2014 //  by Tony White

This is important from a therapeutic point of view in that the therapist is meant to guide the person to firstly understand the question they are asking and secondly assisting the person to gain some kind of answer to it.

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Category: child development, experimentation, PsychotherapyTag: Antiscript, logotherapy, psychotherapy

Testing in relationships

June 9, 2014 //  by Tony White

The same testing behaviour can happen in the therapeutic relationship. Any client is already in a vulnerable and emotionally open position in therapy. Or at least that is what will have to happen soon for the person to benefit from the therapy, or little will be achieved.

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Category: experimentation, intimacy, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: emotional intimacy, psychotherapy, relationships, Transactional analysis

Sleepy as part of the Free Child

June 3, 2014 //  by Tony White

It should be noted that the third muse, sleepy, is a pull to nonlife, it is not a pull towards death. These people are not suicidal in the usual sense of the word.

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Category: child development, counselling, Psychotherapy, TheoryTag: counselling, Free child, nonlife

Psychotherapy & those who don’t fit

May 29, 2014 //  by Tony White

People are a diverse group. Maybe our psychological theories need to reflect that more so

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Category: Psychotherapy, society values, TheoryTag: change, eros, freud, hope, psychotherapy

Neediness in relationship

May 24, 2014 //  by Tony White

(I was asked about neediness the other day and how to deal with it) Why would a woman repetitively become involved with men who are needy. Men who require emotional propping up. Therapy The focus of therapy is about her, not about him. She has probably spent some time discussing him with friends and family …

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Category: All Blog Posts, Dependency, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: dependency, empower, life script, therapy

Neediness in relationship

May 24, 2014 //  by Tony White

That she chooses needy men just as much as they choose her. Her pattern is not bad luck or some kind of fate. She needs needy men just as much as needy men need her.

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Category: Dependency, Psychotherapy, RelationshipTag: dependency, empower, life script, therapy

Social development – History taking

May 22, 2014 //  by Tony White

They are barriers people often use to avoid getting into relationships. There are many and varied reasons why people avoid forming an intimate relationships with a mate.

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Category: child development, Psychotherapy, Social developmentTag: adolescence, adulthood, history taking, isolation, redecision, therapy

The interwoven structure of the life script

May 19, 2014 //  by Tony White

Any system is only as strong as it weakest part. In therapy one looks for the weakest part of the five areas and focusses on that.

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Category: Psychotherapy, systems theoryTag: life script, racket system, redecision

Gateway theory of drug use

May 11, 2014 //  by Tony White

Statistics of Australian drug use This comes from the Australian Psychological Society “The use of licit substances is the most prevalent type of substance use, and an accepted part of Australian and most other western societies. The vast majority of Australians use caffeine, through the consumption of tea, coffee, cola drinks and chocolate. The regular …

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Category: drug, Psychotherapy, TheoryTag: Drug use rates, gateway theory of drugs

Curing alcoholism – switch the addiction

May 10, 2014 //  by Tony White

Where mother’s injunction says “Don’t leave me!” Synanon says “Stay here instead.” (p.185-186). He also says elsewhere, “Curing an addict is the easiest thing in the world – if.

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Category: Alcoholic, counselling, Psychotherapy, Theory, UncategorizedTag: addiction, alcohol, attachment, dependency, drug, mother

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