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Therapist self versus the real self

January 28, 2019 //  by Tony White

Also if the therapy and therapist is overly sensitive and gentle then the client will tend to hyper sensitise and become ‘worse’ in that sense

Therapist self versus the real selfRead More

Category: PsychotherapyTag: Ego states, Free child, resilience

Fight, flight or freeze in therapy

January 19, 2019 //  by Tony White

The person who flees the scene of an accident or the hit and run driver has the flight response.

Fight, flight or freeze in therapyRead More

Category: bully, child developmentTag: fight, flight, freeze, temperament

The bully victim dynamic

January 18, 2019 //  by Tony White

As any child therapist knows the ‘client’ is the child and the parent child relationship. They are a package deal.

The bully victim dynamicRead More

Category: bully, child developmentTag: bully, Transactional analysis

Drugs and danger

January 7, 2019 //  by Tony White

You can’t keep lying to a group of people and not expect them to work that out.

Drugs and dangerRead More

Category: UncategorizedTag: drugs, rock concerts, teenagers

Working with the demon in therapy

December 29, 2018 //  by Tony White

As I said, this was the first time we had ever had significant dialogue between me and this part of her. It will be interesting to see over time what happens, especially her reaction to me.

Working with the demon in therapyRead More

Category: UncategorizedTag: demon sub personality, self destruction, therapy

Death anxiety

December 29, 2018 //  by Tony White

One of the goals in trauma debriefing therapy is to reestablish this contamination in the client so they again begin to lie to themselves their potential mortality.

Death anxietyRead More

Category: UncategorizedTag: contamination, death, Ego state, trauma

Examination of the demon personality

December 23, 2018 //  by Tony White

Instead you acknowledge its power in the therapy process and begin talking to it and forming relational contact when and how it wants. You don’t have a choice to do it any other way. As Berne says, it holds all the cards to play at any time it wants.

Examination of the demon personalityRead More

Category: child development, Eating disorderTag: demon, therapy

Workshop on the demon sub personality.

December 23, 2018 //  by Tony White

It is hoped this workshop can happen in the future. And that I can do demonstration leading on the demon in clients for people at the workshop to observe. However that means there will need to be people in the workshop who have identified this sub personality in them selves, as not all people have …

Workshop on the demon sub personality.Read More

Category: Uncategorized

Understanding feelings in others. Is empathy possible?

December 1, 2018 //  by Tony White

Empathy is really quite a self involved process that is about self and not the other.

Understanding feelings in others. Is empathy possible?Read More

Category: UncategorizedTag: emotions, empathy, feelings

Make feels and LOC

December 1, 2018 //  by Tony White

People with an internal LOC are quite willing to have personal insight to how they may be contributing to their own problems such as their rackets and the games they may play.

Make feels and LOCRead More

Category: UncategorizedTag: locus of control

Car accident “suicides”

October 31, 2018 //  by Tony White

In all that I have read there is never even one mention of people using car crashes as a type of suicide attempt.

Car accident “suicides”Read More

Category: suicide

Suicide attempt by – “I will get you to kill me”

October 29, 2018 //  by Tony White

These are not primarily murders they are primarily suicide attempts.

Suicide attempt by – “I will get you to kill me”Read More

Category: suicideTag: death by cop

Belief and thinking

September 3, 2018 //  by Tony White

Of course it works the other way as well. “Good” belief systems are also resilient and resistant to change.

Belief and thinkingRead More

Category: child developmentTag: belief system, Ego states, thinking errors, Transactional analysis

Family system drug addict

August 31, 2018 //  by Tony White

For a family system drug user it is actually a good thing, as it is easier for the person to eventually stop using the drug.

Family system drug addictRead More

Category: AddictionTag: addiction, alcohol, drug addiction, family system, munchausen syndrome by proxy

Evidence based psychotherapy

August 22, 2018 //  by Tony White

As you can see psychodynamic therapy does quite well.

Evidence based psychotherapyRead More

Category: UncategorizedTag: psychotherapy, redecision, research, TA

Introjection in psychotherapy

August 17, 2018 //  by Tony White

This provides an interesting insight into introjection in this instance. She hasn’t introjected what I have said but instead introjected my voice sound and quality. Then she has applied that introjected voice to her own words.

Introjection in psychotherapyRead More

Category: UncategorizedTag: counselling, drugs, Ego states, introjection, Transactional analysis

Empathy is magical thinking

August 12, 2018 //  by Tony White

Here is a definition of empathy The action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another This represents magical thinking One can only ever feel their own feelings. You can never feel another person’s feelings You can never really understand what another person is feeling. …

Empathy is magical thinkingRead More

Category: emotionsTag: empathy

Mother and child relationships

August 10, 2018 //  by Tony White

Mothers and fathers can generally treat their various children in a similar ways and one could even say equally, but they are not going to feel the same about each of them.

Mother and child relationshipsRead More

Category: PersonalityTag: children, Parenting

Hypnotic induction and ulterior transactions

July 14, 2018 //  by Tony White

The importance of emotional catharsis in psychotherapy has been known since the time of Freud. Maybe there are two factors involved in this observation. Yes the expression of feelings can be psychologically beneficial for the client but also the client picks up hypnotic inductions at the same time.

Hypnotic induction and ulterior transactionsRead More

Category: PsychotherapyTag: adult ego state, child ego state, hypnosis, life script

Introjection and the integrated Adult

June 22, 2018 //  by Tony White

People are adding new introjections to their Parent ego state continuously through out life as part of normal psychological functioning.

Introjection and the integrated AdultRead More

Category: child developmentTag: adult ego state, Ego states, introjection, Transactional analysis

Introjection – two aspects.

June 21, 2018 //  by Tony White

The Child ego state develops through early decisions and the Parent ego state develops through introjections.

Introjection – two aspects.Read More

Category: child developmentTag: introjection

Desensitisation and hyper sensitisation

June 17, 2018 //  by Tony White

However it also works the other way. If we are in an environment where we have little confrontational input then the Free Child will assume that is going to continue and it will come out more and more so we become hyper sensitised.

Desensitisation and hyper sensitisationRead More

Category: PersonalityTag: personality

Smothering on the separation scale

May 20, 2018 //  by Tony White

However as is the case with human behaviour once the script gets set the person will start to do things that promote the life script even as they protest against it.

Smothering on the separation scaleRead More

Category: child developmentTag: teenager

Symbiosis and identity formation in the teenager

May 17, 2018 //  by Tony White

However maybe this is not so true with every adolescent especially the 20% I am referring to. Perhaps there is just not a strong drive or need in this group of people and the assumption that all people have this need is an incorrect assumption.

Symbiosis and identity formation in the teenagerRead More

Category: child developmentTag: anger, teenager

Opposites in the human mind

May 13, 2018 //  by Tony White

People in their desire to be more in control, end up being more out of control. Paradoxically the more you let self be out of control, the more in control of self you will actually be.

Opposites in the human mindRead More

Category: PsychotherapyTag: personality

Children and emotional situations

May 12, 2018 //  by Tony White

When a child is in a new and unknown situation that is emotionally charged it will try and read how mother is emotionally reacting in its attempt to get a base line for itself.

Children and emotional situationsRead More

Category: child developmentTag: children, emotions

Murder suicide

May 11, 2018 //  by Tony White

It suggests that murder suicide is really a subtype of suicide. That the decision to murder others first, comes as an after thought to the decision to kill self.

Murder suicideRead More

Category: suicideTag: murder suicide, suicide

Suicide and family relationships

May 10, 2018 //  by Tony White

If you are working with a suicidal person and their family then you know that at least some members will be supportive of the suicide from their Free Child point of view.

Suicide and family relationshipsRead More

Category: suicideTag: Ego states, family, Free child, suicide

Play therapy and the aggressive child

May 8, 2018 //  by Tony White

In my office I have a dolls house, which I use when I see children and their parents for therapy. I find it can produce valuable information about the psyche of the child. What is going on inside the child’s head at that time.

Play therapy and the aggressive childRead More

Category: child developmentTag: child anger, dolls house, play therapy

Working with the rebellious person

May 8, 2018 //  by Tony White

Listening to a person talk about how they cut self is stress producing for most people including therapists. The therapist needs to be clear they do not fall into subtly pressuring the client into making the contract due to their own anxieties.

Working with the rebellious personRead More

Category: self harm, teenagerTag: rebellious child, self harm, teenager, Transactional analysis

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