As any child therapist knows the ‘client’ is the child and the parent child relationship. They are a package deal.
You can’t keep lying to a group of people and not expect them to work that out.
As I said, this was the first time we had ever had significant dialogue between me and this part of her. It will be interesting to see over time what happens, especially her reaction to me.
One of the goals in trauma debriefing therapy is to reestablish this contamination in the client so they again begin to lie to themselves their potential mortality.
Instead you acknowledge its power in the therapy process and begin talking to it and forming relational contact when and how it wants. You don’t have a choice to do it any other way. As Berne says, it holds all the cards to play at any time it wants.
It is hoped this workshop can happen in the future. And that I can do demonstration leading on the demon in clients for people at the workshop to observe. However that means there will need to be people in the workshop who have identified this sub personality in them selves, as not all people have …
Empathy is really quite a self involved process that is about self and not the other.
People with an internal LOC are quite willing to have personal insight to how they may be contributing to their own problems such as their rackets and the games they may play.
In all that I have read there is never even one mention of people using car crashes as a type of suicide attempt.
These are not primarily murders they are primarily suicide attempts.
Of course it works the other way as well. “Good” belief systems are also resilient and resistant to change.
For a family system drug user it is actually a good thing, as it is easier for the person to eventually stop using the drug.
As you can see psychodynamic therapy does quite well.
This provides an interesting insight into introjection in this instance. She hasn’t introjected what I have said but instead introjected my voice sound and quality. Then she has applied that introjected voice to her own words.
Here is a definition of empathy The action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another This represents magical thinking One can only ever feel their own feelings. You can never feel another person’s feelings You can never really understand what another person is feeling. …
Mothers and fathers can generally treat their various children in a similar ways and one could even say equally, but they are not going to feel the same about each of them.
The importance of emotional catharsis in psychotherapy has been known since the time of Freud. Maybe there are two factors involved in this observation. Yes the expression of feelings can be psychologically beneficial for the client but also the client picks up hypnotic inductions at the same time.
People are adding new introjections to their Parent ego state continuously through out life as part of normal psychological functioning.
The Child ego state develops through early decisions and the Parent ego state develops through introjections.
However it also works the other way. If we are in an environment where we have little confrontational input then the Free Child will assume that is going to continue and it will come out more and more so we become hyper sensitised.
However as is the case with human behaviour once the script gets set the person will start to do things that promote the life script even as they protest against it.
However maybe this is not so true with every adolescent especially the 20% I am referring to. Perhaps there is just not a strong drive or need in this group of people and the assumption that all people have this need is an incorrect assumption.
People in their desire to be more in control, end up being more out of control. Paradoxically the more you let self be out of control, the more in control of self you will actually be.
When a child is in a new and unknown situation that is emotionally charged it will try and read how mother is emotionally reacting in its attempt to get a base line for itself.
It suggests that murder suicide is really a subtype of suicide. That the decision to murder others first, comes as an after thought to the decision to kill self.
If you are working with a suicidal person and their family then you know that at least some members will be supportive of the suicide from their Free Child point of view.
In my office I have a dolls house, which I use when I see children and their parents for therapy. I find it can produce valuable information about the psyche of the child. What is going on inside the child’s head at that time.
Listening to a person talk about how they cut self is stress producing for most people including therapists. The therapist needs to be clear they do not fall into subtly pressuring the client into making the contract due to their own anxieties.
A significant attachment figure was never fully internalised in childhood and thus there is a sense of a hole inside self. The therapist is used by the client to fill that hole.
If one allows the client to avoid it for long periods of time and addresses it in a very a tepid way that may empower the shame.