Empathy is really quite a self involved process that is about self and not the other.
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Make feels and LOC
People with an internal LOC are quite willing to have personal insight to how they may be contributing to their own problems such as their rackets and the games they may play.
Car accident “suicides”
In all that I have read there is never even one mention of people using car crashes as a type of suicide attempt.
Suicide attempt by – “I will get you to kill me”
These are not primarily murders they are primarily suicide attempts.
Belief and thinking
Of course it works the other way as well. “Good” belief systems are also resilient and resistant to change.
Family system drug addict
For a family system drug user it is actually a good thing, as it is easier for the person to eventually stop using the drug.
Evidence based psychotherapy
As you can see psychodynamic therapy does quite well.
Introjection in psychotherapy
This provides an interesting insight into introjection in this instance. She hasn’t introjected what I have said but instead introjected my voice sound and quality. Then she has applied that introjected voice to her own words.
Empathy is magical thinking
Here is a definition of empathy The action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another This represents magical thinking One can only ever feel their own feelings. You can never feel another person’s feelings You can never really understand what another person is feeling. …
Mother and child relationships
Mothers and fathers can generally treat their various children in a similar ways and one could even say equally, but they are not going to feel the same about each of them.
Hypnotic induction and ulterior transactions
The importance of emotional catharsis in psychotherapy has been known since the time of Freud. Maybe there are two factors involved in this observation. Yes the expression of feelings can be psychologically beneficial for the client but also the client picks up hypnotic inductions at the same time.
Introjection and the integrated Adult
People are adding new introjections to their Parent ego state continuously through out life as part of normal psychological functioning.
Introjection – two aspects.
The Child ego state develops through early decisions and the Parent ego state develops through introjections.
Desensitisation and hyper sensitisation
However it also works the other way. If we are in an environment where we have little confrontational input then the Free Child will assume that is going to continue and it will come out more and more so we become hyper sensitised.
Smothering on the separation scale
However as is the case with human behaviour once the script gets set the person will start to do things that promote the life script even as they protest against it.
Symbiosis and identity formation in the teenager
However maybe this is not so true with every adolescent especially the 20% I am referring to. Perhaps there is just not a strong drive or need in this group of people and the assumption that all people have this need is an incorrect assumption.
Opposites in the human mind
People in their desire to be more in control, end up being more out of control. Paradoxically the more you let self be out of control, the more in control of self you will actually be.
Children and emotional situations
When a child is in a new and unknown situation that is emotionally charged it will try and read how mother is emotionally reacting in its attempt to get a base line for itself.
Murder suicide
It suggests that murder suicide is really a subtype of suicide. That the decision to murder others first, comes as an after thought to the decision to kill self.
Suicide and family relationships
If you are working with a suicidal person and their family then you know that at least some members will be supportive of the suicide from their Free Child point of view.
Play therapy and the aggressive child
In my office I have a dolls house, which I use when I see children and their parents for therapy. I find it can produce valuable information about the psyche of the child. What is going on inside the child’s head at that time.
Working with the rebellious person
Listening to a person talk about how they cut self is stress producing for most people including therapists. The therapist needs to be clear they do not fall into subtly pressuring the client into making the contract due to their own anxieties.
Despair and its treatment
A significant attachment figure was never fully internalised in childhood and thus there is a sense of a hole inside self. The therapist is used by the client to fill that hole.
The therapist’s role in bringing up sensitive topics in therapy
If one allows the client to avoid it for long periods of time and addresses it in a very a tepid way that may empower the shame.
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Confronting magical thinking about suicide
The magical thinking about suicide is that it can result in a relief from one’s pain.
Big feelings and little feelings
Of course big feelings do occur in childhood, sometimes many of them occur and many are not dealt with or resolved as the child cannot articulate its need to do so
Teenage conventional thinking
Recent research on what teenagers see as, “What makes a good person”. They were asked to rate the qualities of people who were good people. This indicates teenagers are a conventional group of people in these views. But this seems incongruent as the teenage stage is often an angry stage of storm and stress. The …
Wall of trivia
The wall of trivia allows for two people to keep an emotional distance from each other.
Treatment of the passive aggressive personality
Provide lots of positive stokes to the PA and work on how they may filter the strokes.
Developmental problems for the child from the affluent family
The child from the wealthy family is more likely to be left with the question – Who am I?
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